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Tuesday, June 20, 2006

A Job finally, but only for awhile. Pressing things that caused an argument. Thank God he gave me longy. :)

I finally got a job as a web designer cum media publishing support in a company exporting American SUVs like Chevrolets, Hummers, Cadillac etc and 5th wheelers in Traralgon. It's a great job scope; exactly what I want, abit of website and abit of media publishing stuff, but the sad part is that it's only a contract based position of 2 months. But at least there's the option to extend the contract if there's a need to. Well, it's better than nothing since the pay per hour is pretty good and would at least provide sufficient income while looking for another job thereafter. Furthermore, Wendy from Monash Uni careers has really been a great help, even recommending me to a job placed by Recruit Solutions, a recruitment agency. But I didn't take up the other job since that wasn't in Gippsland, but in North Melbourne. So the recruitment consultant asked me to send my resume in anyway and he'll help me with finding another job after my contract ends.

Well in the meantime, apart from the World Cup fever betting, playing neopets, doing crossword puzzles and reading magazines to pass time, I was also fretting and having a huge headache about the moving house thingy, setting up of phone line and Internet connection. So last night(one of the worst days of my life), with all the misunderstandings, assumptions and tension building up, my chabohs and I almost had a shouting match. It was almost there with the voices raised especially when 2 are hot headed and the other 1 who's pretty confusing at times. But thank God again there's darling around; the level-headed, humourous one who always manages to turn bad things into good. Don't get me wrong, he's a totally impartial person and doesn't take sides, so he basically gave all 3 of us a good "scolding".

But the argument actually got me thinking about how fragile friendships are sometimes. And friendships that last are actually those where all parties are truthful and direct to each other. So the chinese translated saying goes, "Meeting each other is easy, getting along is difficult." You may think you actually know your friend very well, but when it comes to settling issues or living together, that's a totally different thing. I guess when friends wanna live together, they pretty much need to agree to the same things to a certain level of extent. Otherwise, a friendship may just be lost due to some minor differences and issues where all parties keep quiet and let the tension build. Well, we managed to get things sorted out, but still the scar is there. Certain things that were brought up really broke my heart cause I thought we knew each other really well. But apparently not, due to everyone having their own assumptions, including myself. So much as I don't want anything affecting the friendship, there is a small amount of hurt still there. But I will try my best to heal that scar, be more benevolent and hope everything will get back to normal. It'll take some time, but it'll get there...

7 comments:

Joewiz said...

Maybe because we never clarify ourself and talk things out until it builds up. So just like a volcano happens, washing things up to lead a new beginning. If u said it's scar i wish it would be a worth a one.

-mel- said...

Yeah true, I think I know what you mean although I'm abit confused about the last sentence.. (0.0) But right, we'll wash away the volcano ashes together and turn the land into a new one.. kekeke..

increadible.liz said...

hey mel! cheer up lah... all of us will get thru this. we all know how hurting it is when comes to "own good friends not able to understand one another" as it supposed to be. since most of the problems (i hope) have been voiced out and perhaps agreed upon, living together in the next couple of weeks onwards would be better coz all of us in the house know that we need to be truthful when dealing with issues. :)

-mel- said...

Yeah I know haha.. Just like next time if you happen to hog the toilet for too long, then I'm gonna scream at you, "get out before I bang the door down!".. :D

Joewiz said...

Yeah the last sentence is a bit mess up n confused though (maybe bcoz i'm half asleep already)or maybe i just wanted to make it short. U said the incident does left a scar on u, so i hope it would be a scar that cums will good things after that, not a scar that leave u with bad memory. So if the 'scar' we left on each other help us to settle all the misunderstanding and strengthen our friendhship, then it's worth to have the scar. So if u think u need a new tattoo just cum to me lol.

-mel- said...

Aiyoh *mel slaps forehead* I noticed we've all become a little bit more long winded man.. Cannot! We can't become naggy old women so soon! And I trust the tattoo guy in Traralgon, thank you for your offer ah.. :D

Joewiz said...

yaloh, so long winded, full stop for tat. Mentioning about tattoo, i am holding the decision whether or not to have a tattoo, perhaps just waiting for the rite time kekeke